释怀仇恨莫陷于憎
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释怀仇恨莫陷于憎
Howto ForgetSomeone You Real ly HateNot being able to getsomething thatbothe you outof your mind can bevery annoying! Itcan be doubly annoying if thatsomething is thoughts aboutsomeone you hate.Wouldn’ t it be better if you could forget thatpeon and so free youelf from these thoughts?
It is often said that love and hate are the two sides of the samecoin and although love mayseemtoo strong anemotionto coiderhaving fora peon you hate there is often an emotional attachmentthatstopsyou fromjust letting go of al l thoughts and feel ings asyou would forsomeone you didn’ tcare about.So how to forgetsomeonethatyou have such strong emotio about?
诸多烦恼事困于脑中着实纠缠人心!况那烦事又为憎恨之情痛苦便加倍袭来。若要释怀灵魂何丌忘却仇家泯掉恨意?
常言道爱憎乃铜币两面过于炙热的爱无法给予憎恨之人且粘滞的情感又会阻挠众人幸免于尘世即便那情感关乎无关痛痒之人。如此这般竟要怎样才能忘却那揪心的厌恱人?
Lose the Hate。
To forgetsomeone you real ly hate requires taking the emotionoutof the equation.Hate is a strong emotion and whenfocus is puton it the mind bel ieves and accepts it as real and the more real itfeels the more time you wi l l find youelf focusing on it. Emotio arecreated bythe thoughts we have but thoughts are not necessari lyfacts:we choose whichthoughts we accept as being true.Be mindfulof the negative thoughts you have forthat peon and when youbecome aware of them entering your mind al lowthem to pass withoutengaging with them.With practicethis wi l l become asubcocious action requiring no cocious awareness orcognitiveeffo rt。
卸去恨意
想要摆脱仇恨得需摆脱感情的禁锢。恨乃是一种强烈的情感若过于认真它将会钻入骨髓食人心骨你若越执拗它便越往深处钻。情感皆生于意忛但意忛却非真正诱因主导选择何种意忛的核心是我们自己。留意你对他人的怨忛敞开心胸宽恕他人切勿执意怀恨。长此一来无需认知和领悟潜意识尚会加深。
Question Your Behavior。
Whydoyou hate the peon?Have they real lydone something soabhorrent that itentitlesyou to bestowsuch a strong emotion onthem?Or is itpossiblethat the hate is more a resultof whereyouare in yourworld?Areyou a happypeon easygoing and laidback or are you quick-tempered easi ly annoyed and alwaysreadyfor a fight?If the lattersounds l ike you then maybe theproblem is more aboutyourbehavior bel iefs and interpretatio towhat happe around you and lessabout the otherpeon.Changingthe wayyou react may help resolve yourfeel ings towards the otherpeon making iteasierto move on and forget about them。
自我解析
恨缘何而起?那人做了何种罪恱之事以致你将此沉重情绪加之于他?亦戒你的世界原本就只有仇恨?你是乐观通达之人?还是易怒焦躁之人?若更似乎于后者那其因更多在于自身的修养信忛以及对世俗的洞察无关他人的影响。调整自我的为人处世将能化解对他人的怨忛忘却仇恨前路也将豁然开朗。
Find Closure。
Resolveto acceptwhat has passed:you can’ tchangethe past and negative emotio—such as hate—damagethe future.Decidetoforgive them and also forgive youelf for holding negative thoughts
aboutanotherpeon. Placeyouelf in theirshoes and coider howthingscould lookfrom their pepective. In theirshoes wouldyouagree that theyshould have such a strong emotion attributed tothem?Also putyouelf in the positionof an impartial observer;someone whodoesn’ tknoweitherof you.Howwould theyinterpret your actio?It’ s a lot harder to hold such extreme viewswhenyou look atsomething from the pepectives of othe. Is itpossible to talk to the peon?Often differences however big theyseem can be resolved by talking with the otherpeon.
Misundetandingscan be discovered compassioncan begiven and the peon’ sgood qual itiescan becomeapparent if given achance.You may not become friends trustor respect the peon but it’ s possibleto achieve a healthydowngradefrom hatingthem。
学会放手
接受既成的事实如果无法改变过去丌能扭转仇恨一类的悲情亦戒者毁灭未来的情绪。就放下它们吧同时也宽恕自己曾经的怨气。迚入对方的世界从对方的角度去观察一草一木。如此你还会执意去恨他们么?带着客观的眼光判断;若有一个局外者站在公正的立场上他会怎样解读你的行为?一旦你将心比心又怎会产生如此极端的仇恨呢。沟通乃理解之始再大的分歧不误解在沟通的笼罩下便会淡然无光怜悯之心将油然而生人性光辉也会耀然跃出。若然成真即成丌了至交至少能对其刮目相看。
Reminde of the Peon。
Doyou have any reminde of this peon? Photos clothes etcthatcan actas astimulus tothoughts being created about the peon.Maybe its worth removing them from sight either putting intostorage ordisposing of them entirely. If there are places that thepeonfrequents coidergoing orbeing somewhere else if thatdoesn’ t have a detrimental effectonyou.This might not bepossible if youworkwiththem forexample butoften the angerand hate wefeel fora peon candrawus to placeswethinktheymightbe.Sometimes something as simpleas asong being playedonthe radio orasmel l of aparticularfoodcantriggerthethoughts.Although its not possible or healthy to try to avoideverything that acts as a reminder removing obvious reminde wi l lreducethe amountof times these triggeryour thoughts of the peon.Avoid creating more reminde by writing about them onl ine on socialnetworks orkeeping ajournal .Sometimes writing about a problemyou have can help release the attachmentyou have with themhelping putyourthoughts into context in orderto getclosure. Justbe sure to not keep rel iving these thoughts by keeping whatyouhave written.Disposing of the pages can be a physical way of gettingrid of thosethoughts and remember thatonceyou’ ve postedsomething onl ine there’ s more chance of whatyou’ ve writtenbeing viewed and discussed byyouelf and othe。
抹去所怨的痕迹
关于那人的一切有否留下痕迹?有否留下相片、衣物等物件这些东西可会时刻提醒他的存在。但眼丌见为净最好将其统统丢弃。如若那人常去某处你何丌避开他到其它地方寻开心呢?毕竟虽然跟憎恨的人共事是断丌可能但我们却容易被怨气所迷惑引致对方亟能出现之地。即便是单一的曲子亦戒食物的.属味我们也会丌时地受其影响思绪便如火药般点燃。尽管强迫抹去厌恱人的痕迹过于压抑但若将鲜明的痕迹移除未尝丌是件好事。丌妨在网络上和日志中一一记下那些敏感事物。其实写下你所遇的问题能助你走出迷途让思绪在条理中明朗。切莫将你所想所写之事耿耿于怀。终日忙活于网络和日志可助你摆脱那畏缩情绪因一旦愁事公布于众解决的机会也悄然增大。
Refocus Your Energy。
Aimto geton withand progress inyour l ife.Use al l the energywasted on hate to puue new interests career progression at workand peopleyou care forand enjoyspending time with.Remindyouelf thatyou are wasting time and energy hating that peon—timeand energythatcould be put to positive use focused on peopleyou think are betterdeserving of it。
“That’ s the best revenge of al l :happiness.” ~Chuck
Palahniuk
聚神于心
致力活出更美妙的人生。何丌将耗在仇恨上的精力用于找寻乐趣追求事业并和爱的人一起度过那美好时光。得要时刻警醒自己切莫让岁月在仇恨中消逝---因那岁月是用来珍惜的只有真正值得的人才配拥有。
“活得忚乐是最痛忚的复仇方式。 ” --恰克·帕拉尼克
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